Short back story: I talk about my son. How wonderful he is. Our little moments of awesome. How crazy he is. How crazy he drives me. The ways I torture, I mean discipline him from time to time.
Sometimes a response sends me over the cliff. Like responding with "try having ten". I see this on a lot of posts. A mom of two complains and you over zealot uterus's respond with "try having a dozen in diapers". I hear it fairly often being a mother of one.
Usually I ignore it. I roll my eyes. I say nothing back to your uterus.
Blame it on all the adorable babies filling my feed, blame it on all the pregnant mom's to be talking, blame it on another friend talking about her ticking uterus, or just simply blame it on that's not the kind of thing you say. Who raised you? An Olympic child bearer?
How do you expect someone to respond to blithe comments like "try having four".
So tonight I'm going to explore some ways I chose not to respond to you.
"Try having (insert your magic number of fertilized eggs)"
Some of the responses I've wanted to give you:
"I'm sorry your uterus is so exhausted, you should try birth control."
"So I can't afford date night either?"
"The morning after pill is over the counter now."
"I'm sorry was this a contest?"
"On purpose?"
"Did you sit in a lot of Miracle Grow growing up because your uterus is certainly well fertilized!"
"Because your frustrations are worse than my frustrations? Because your amount of exhaustion outweighs whatever exhaustion I feel?"
"Because then I wouldn't have time to worry about the one I have? Or the time to actually have a meaningful conversation with him?"
But most of all I want to say, "Why? Because ONE doesn't make me a MOM?"
Maybe I should take the truthful approach:
"I'm sorry my infertility bothers you, perhaps you could share?"
"I would love to have (insert magical number). My body couldn't."
"It breaks my heart how long I've wanted more children."
"My arms ache to hold another baby. I would love to read to another toddler, finger paint, and spend days engaging a young mind. To even have a reason to watch one more episode of Dora The Explorer. I would love to watch another child grow. Snuggle next to me on the couch. Most of all, I'd love my son to have siblings."
See the truth is ladies - sometimes that mother of one did want more children! Dreamed of having more children. So your constant little digs about "try having" are just that. Digs. Way to make another woman feel crappy. Feel better about yourself now? Want your trophy now? Congratulations! God blessed you. Now stop making other moms feel like less of a woman. It's hurtful.
The approach I did choose to take?
A new status that said:
How many kids you blow out your crotch rocket doesn't make you more or less of a mom than another mom. They aren't decorated war medals or boy scout badges.
Friday, February 21, 2014
Tuesday, June 11, 2013
Ear Infections, Tubes or Something Else?
I stay away from heated debates about clipping your newborn son's body, breast feeding, and immunizations. These are all a parent's decision and they make the best one they can for their child with the information they have available to them. That being said, I won't debate my stance on ear tubes but I will share my story. If my story helps one family, then it was worth the effort to tell it.
Many Dr's push tubes when a child has had a recurrent ear infection or fluid build up on their ears. My son had this from birth to 18 months - they did antibiotic shots, he did overnight stays in the hospital with the flu because with his ears already causing him stomach upset it was so easy for him to dehydrate, you name it he'd been put through it. Finally around a year old the Dr said maybe it was time for tubes.
I felt uneasy. Most of the kids I had known to get tubes wound up having to redo them at least once. It was a pita when the kid went swimming and stuck their head under when no one was looking, etc. It's also a band aid procedure. There. That's how I feel about it without getting technical. It means the child is having ear infections, don't know what the root cause is so let's put a band aid on it and stop it.
They also don't tell you the risks and complications. Like the little boy who has constant puss drainage and his ear actually smells and the Drs say that's normal the tubes are doing their job until he's screaming in pain and you take him to the ER and it's the tube not fitting properly about to burst his ear drum. Infected. Painful. Could potentially cause the hearing loss so many parents are trying to avoid.
So - my first step at a year old was to get online. I discovered a common cause for the actual ear infection is allergies. Allergies? No. My kid doesn't have those. Have they been tested? Do you really know that for a fact? Believe me when I say his list of allergies shocked everyone including his Dr. He was allergic to dust, dogs, rice, peanut butter, and soy. Almost half of what he was eating was probably causing part of his problems. (On another note we went in for his retest when he started school and he'd outgrown all but the dust allergy! The only thing we always have to be aware of is the fact the peanut butter one could come back with a vengance.)
So we removed the allergens from his diet and environment as best as possible, who doesn't have a little dust exposure? Especially at the time living on a rural dust road. I mean gravel road. You get the idea. After we got the allergies under control the fluid on his ears was lessened but still there. Except now my Dr noticed something else, his adenoids were huge. His tonsils were inflamed and swollen.
Sure enough, the ENT said he needed those removed before we did any more tube talk. At 18 months he had those removed, it was a rough week trying to get him to drink after surgery and hydrate but if you asked me would I do it again? My answer would be YES YES YES.
When you consider tubes consider the risks and ask yourself if you have ruled out the common culprit of allergies. It's a simple stick test and the child can eat a sucker while the Dr checks their back/stomach for all of the common allergens. In addition to the risks with tubes that get stuck, don't fall out naturally, get infected - are you prepared to do another tube surgery when that set falls out and the ears are still acting up? Then research how many kids with tubes wind up later getting tonsils/adenoids removed because now the chances have gone from putting them through surgery once for tubes, twice if they need a second set, and a third time for the tonsils/adenoids.
Tubes are a temporary solution and when they do their job as they are supposed to, everything's great. I'm not telling you what to do. It's your kid. There are tonsil/adenoid removal risks too - everything has a risk. I'd still point out there's a high % of people after tubes that wind up still having to have the other surgery though and I'd also point out in our case the tonsils/adenoids were a 100% success rate. He never had another ear infection. The child who's ears almost had the drum rupture from the tube and later did tonsils/adenoids - never had another infection after the tonsils. Tonsils have risks too but in a lot of these cases your going to wind up doing it later anyway.
So just ask your Dr the questions now. Ask them if it could be allergies. Ask them if the tonsils are enlarged or adenoids. Be comfortable with your decision to go the tube route and don't just think "everyone has tubes, it's 100% safe, and it's going to be a fix all" because a lot of parents feel let down when it didn't fix all.
Do the research, ask the questions, and feel comfortable. Only you - not me, not the Internet, not any other mom has to live with the choices you make which is why I don't debate the above issues. I didn't post this to debate tubes. I posted this to tell OUR story and maybe give you a different perspective especially if like I was, your already uncomfortable going the tube route.
Many Dr's push tubes when a child has had a recurrent ear infection or fluid build up on their ears. My son had this from birth to 18 months - they did antibiotic shots, he did overnight stays in the hospital with the flu because with his ears already causing him stomach upset it was so easy for him to dehydrate, you name it he'd been put through it. Finally around a year old the Dr said maybe it was time for tubes.
I felt uneasy. Most of the kids I had known to get tubes wound up having to redo them at least once. It was a pita when the kid went swimming and stuck their head under when no one was looking, etc. It's also a band aid procedure. There. That's how I feel about it without getting technical. It means the child is having ear infections, don't know what the root cause is so let's put a band aid on it and stop it.
They also don't tell you the risks and complications. Like the little boy who has constant puss drainage and his ear actually smells and the Drs say that's normal the tubes are doing their job until he's screaming in pain and you take him to the ER and it's the tube not fitting properly about to burst his ear drum. Infected. Painful. Could potentially cause the hearing loss so many parents are trying to avoid.
So - my first step at a year old was to get online. I discovered a common cause for the actual ear infection is allergies. Allergies? No. My kid doesn't have those. Have they been tested? Do you really know that for a fact? Believe me when I say his list of allergies shocked everyone including his Dr. He was allergic to dust, dogs, rice, peanut butter, and soy. Almost half of what he was eating was probably causing part of his problems. (On another note we went in for his retest when he started school and he'd outgrown all but the dust allergy! The only thing we always have to be aware of is the fact the peanut butter one could come back with a vengance.)
So we removed the allergens from his diet and environment as best as possible, who doesn't have a little dust exposure? Especially at the time living on a rural dust road. I mean gravel road. You get the idea. After we got the allergies under control the fluid on his ears was lessened but still there. Except now my Dr noticed something else, his adenoids were huge. His tonsils were inflamed and swollen.
Sure enough, the ENT said he needed those removed before we did any more tube talk. At 18 months he had those removed, it was a rough week trying to get him to drink after surgery and hydrate but if you asked me would I do it again? My answer would be YES YES YES.
When you consider tubes consider the risks and ask yourself if you have ruled out the common culprit of allergies. It's a simple stick test and the child can eat a sucker while the Dr checks their back/stomach for all of the common allergens. In addition to the risks with tubes that get stuck, don't fall out naturally, get infected - are you prepared to do another tube surgery when that set falls out and the ears are still acting up? Then research how many kids with tubes wind up later getting tonsils/adenoids removed because now the chances have gone from putting them through surgery once for tubes, twice if they need a second set, and a third time for the tonsils/adenoids.
Tubes are a temporary solution and when they do their job as they are supposed to, everything's great. I'm not telling you what to do. It's your kid. There are tonsil/adenoid removal risks too - everything has a risk. I'd still point out there's a high % of people after tubes that wind up still having to have the other surgery though and I'd also point out in our case the tonsils/adenoids were a 100% success rate. He never had another ear infection. The child who's ears almost had the drum rupture from the tube and later did tonsils/adenoids - never had another infection after the tonsils. Tonsils have risks too but in a lot of these cases your going to wind up doing it later anyway.
So just ask your Dr the questions now. Ask them if it could be allergies. Ask them if the tonsils are enlarged or adenoids. Be comfortable with your decision to go the tube route and don't just think "everyone has tubes, it's 100% safe, and it's going to be a fix all" because a lot of parents feel let down when it didn't fix all.
Do the research, ask the questions, and feel comfortable. Only you - not me, not the Internet, not any other mom has to live with the choices you make which is why I don't debate the above issues. I didn't post this to debate tubes. I posted this to tell OUR story and maybe give you a different perspective especially if like I was, your already uncomfortable going the tube route.
Friday, April 5, 2013
Behind
I've gotten behind with blogging this year because our school year has been strange.
It was our first full year of homeschool and it presented some unique challenges.
The first few months he didn't want to get in routine with school at all which was difficult, then he spent the next few months fighting school.
Right around the holidays his mood changed again and he's embraced homeschool. I have let bits and pieces slip on my Facebook page throughout the year. What changed around the halfway mark? Well, I think a lot of it has to do with expecting himself to fail. I know his capability so yes, he fought me earlier in the year. I was pushing him in new ways. Challenging him and he was used to being bored more often than not. He wasn't bored and it was scary, new.
I don't think he realized the expectations either. So he kept expecting a pass/fail system. That if he did poorly he'd flunk a class. Instead he found out if he didn't get it the first time, that was okay. We would spend all week or two weeks on a math concept if we had to. The important thing wasn't getting 100% on every assignment but rather making sure he knew the concept and could apply it.
Finding out the pressure was off, he began to embrace the challenges. He has also grown so much this year. Like learning he might even like history! He thought he hated it. It has always been presented in a boring manner and he wasn't interested. Instead I have started really using a variety of tools to teach the subject matter. He knows his Civil War after this year and he can discuss it. We incorporated it into our reading class by reading Uncle Tom's Cabin, we watched short video clips, a history channel movie, and even some modern films on slavery (I won't debate it so no, I won't tell you what movie we saw that went a long way opening his interest in the subject. It doesn't matter if other moms agree or disagree with my choice, it served a purpose and worked for us!) I used power points & worksheets. My point is I didn't present the material in only one medium, one format. By using the variety, I gave him more tools to learn with.
I'm hoping to blog more shorts from our past year when we start taking more breaks with the warmer weather - until then, if you take nothing else from today's post - take this: Mix it up, mom! We are not a class room of 30 so if your kid needs extra help in fractions, give them a week, two weeks, a month to learn fractions. The time gets made up in other material that they fully grasp & understand in one day. On the other hand, if we treat them like the classroom does and don't let them grasp the first concept, we set them up for failure on the rest of the unit. There's some great math video's on Youtube. There's some great downloadable curriculum materials online. Google them. Find them. Your child will thank you for it.
Also mix up how you teach. It doesn't have to be nothing but power points. You can use whatever tools you think will work. Find video's, power points, worksheets, books, short stories. Whatever it takes to get them interested. If they are younger, crafts work well. Science experiments appeal to all ages and are great learning tools. The more fun they have, the less learning feels like work. So the more they want to do it. It's not such a chore to get them motivated anymore. These are lessons I have learned this year.
The last lesson I learned was to introduce something new that you know your child will be good at. For instance, mine has always had a great grasp on vocabulary and speaking. So I introduced French. Inside I felt defeated before I tried because it's so hard to get him interested in change. I shouldn't have worried. He was naturally good at it because he picks up on speech very well. He's excelled. He has confidence with it. And he loves his French class!!! So give them one thing you know they are good at and let them run with it. You may be surprised. He's already hoping to master all of the online high school level French course so in high school he can consider learning a third language! I was amazed to hear that. He wants to pick up a couple of languages and learn them well for future job advantages as well as job opportunities. He's thinking ahead. We've accomplished a lot this year! What about you?
It was our first full year of homeschool and it presented some unique challenges.
The first few months he didn't want to get in routine with school at all which was difficult, then he spent the next few months fighting school.
Right around the holidays his mood changed again and he's embraced homeschool. I have let bits and pieces slip on my Facebook page throughout the year. What changed around the halfway mark? Well, I think a lot of it has to do with expecting himself to fail. I know his capability so yes, he fought me earlier in the year. I was pushing him in new ways. Challenging him and he was used to being bored more often than not. He wasn't bored and it was scary, new.
I don't think he realized the expectations either. So he kept expecting a pass/fail system. That if he did poorly he'd flunk a class. Instead he found out if he didn't get it the first time, that was okay. We would spend all week or two weeks on a math concept if we had to. The important thing wasn't getting 100% on every assignment but rather making sure he knew the concept and could apply it.
Finding out the pressure was off, he began to embrace the challenges. He has also grown so much this year. Like learning he might even like history! He thought he hated it. It has always been presented in a boring manner and he wasn't interested. Instead I have started really using a variety of tools to teach the subject matter. He knows his Civil War after this year and he can discuss it. We incorporated it into our reading class by reading Uncle Tom's Cabin, we watched short video clips, a history channel movie, and even some modern films on slavery (I won't debate it so no, I won't tell you what movie we saw that went a long way opening his interest in the subject. It doesn't matter if other moms agree or disagree with my choice, it served a purpose and worked for us!) I used power points & worksheets. My point is I didn't present the material in only one medium, one format. By using the variety, I gave him more tools to learn with.
I'm hoping to blog more shorts from our past year when we start taking more breaks with the warmer weather - until then, if you take nothing else from today's post - take this: Mix it up, mom! We are not a class room of 30 so if your kid needs extra help in fractions, give them a week, two weeks, a month to learn fractions. The time gets made up in other material that they fully grasp & understand in one day. On the other hand, if we treat them like the classroom does and don't let them grasp the first concept, we set them up for failure on the rest of the unit. There's some great math video's on Youtube. There's some great downloadable curriculum materials online. Google them. Find them. Your child will thank you for it.
Also mix up how you teach. It doesn't have to be nothing but power points. You can use whatever tools you think will work. Find video's, power points, worksheets, books, short stories. Whatever it takes to get them interested. If they are younger, crafts work well. Science experiments appeal to all ages and are great learning tools. The more fun they have, the less learning feels like work. So the more they want to do it. It's not such a chore to get them motivated anymore. These are lessons I have learned this year.
The last lesson I learned was to introduce something new that you know your child will be good at. For instance, mine has always had a great grasp on vocabulary and speaking. So I introduced French. Inside I felt defeated before I tried because it's so hard to get him interested in change. I shouldn't have worried. He was naturally good at it because he picks up on speech very well. He's excelled. He has confidence with it. And he loves his French class!!! So give them one thing you know they are good at and let them run with it. You may be surprised. He's already hoping to master all of the online high school level French course so in high school he can consider learning a third language! I was amazed to hear that. He wants to pick up a couple of languages and learn them well for future job advantages as well as job opportunities. He's thinking ahead. We've accomplished a lot this year! What about you?
Tuesday, October 23, 2012
The Lost Son (Review)
I recently found a galley site that allows bloggers, reviewers, book sellers, and librarians to request advanced reader copies digitally. I thought this might be a fun project since we did a review unit at the end of last year and learned how to write product, book, and food reviews. It would give my son a chance to sharpen his skills in this area and allow us to find some fun books to read together for reading class. Our first approved choice was The Lost Son by Tamra Torero and Preston Norton. This was published by Cedar Fort Books and seemed like a good, clean family publisher for our first choice.
I'm going to type my son's review in and then I'm going to make notes in a different font color so you know it's my thoughts not his. I thought for his first review for a publisher he did a very nice job.
The Lost Son is about a boy named Jacob who gets drunk at a party and kills Cody. Jacob then has to live with Sam, Cody's father for a month and help him at his Christmas tree farm.
The book begins at a party where Jacob is drunk and acting like a very obnoxious boy. He drives home and has an accident killing another teenager his age, Cody. Due to the problems he has caused Sam which could potentially put him out of business this Christmas, Sam asks the judge to give Jacob a chance. The judge realizes the predicament Sam is in and allows this unconventional punishment to stand. This will open the door to several opportunities for the characters in the novel to grow and change.
The things I liked
The plot and most of the characters were well thought out. The book was descriptive. The relationships didn't seem forced.
I enjoyed watching the characters each take their own personal journey that sort of came together in places and overlapped with one another's. Most of the relationships don't seem forced and there is conflict where appropriate.
The Things I didn't Like
Some of the book seemed rushed. Some of the scenes seemed sloppy by over filling the page with unimportant words then rushing more important aspects. The ending was not very well thought out and was one of the most rushed parts of the story. When you spend time investing yourself in a novel and then the ending is rushed you feel cheated at the end and that is what the reader will remember.
My son can be a pretty harsh critic when he feels wronged by his literature but he is also very accurate about the rushed ending. The last few pages feel thrown together and the reader is left to wonder what was the rush? We went on and on in parts, being over descriptive, then acted like the keyboard wouldn't allow a well thought out, well delivered conclusion that had to be rushed in fifty words or less. Especially when it begins willy nilly throwing characters together that may or may not work out but given what the reader has been led to believe about the main character's brother one can only wonder.
I'm also going to interject an adult observation, this novel seemed unable to devote itself to one perspective and do it well. I don't mean it head hopped, the writing technique in this was done well except for some heavy prose moments. I mean the writer would try to climb into the mind of a growing teenage boy and do an excellent job and then they would back out - no scramble out of it with both feet and have him thinking thoughts like a fifty year old man. The beginning party scene is probably what hooked me the most and yet, they lost that voice as the pages progressed and it wasn't from some great maturity on the character's part. It was as if they forgot they were describing things from a young man's perspective and told the story to an adult audience. This is going to be the biggest hurdle this book is going to face. It is marketed at a young adult audience and it reads as slowly in parts as the begats in the Bible would to a young person.
I watched it happen as we read this. My son would get interested, he would be hooked and they would lose him every time by hopping out of his maturity and interest level.
Overall, I would give this book three stars.
In conclusion, mom fell in love with the premise of the novel more than the way it played out. I loved the idea of a boy being held accountable for his wrong doing and being forced to see the effect his choices had made in other lives. I loved the way the book was clean and able to be shared with my thirteen year old as even our younger teens need to be aware the consequences of bad choices like drinking and driving.
I didn't love the way the prose hopped. I didn't love when the characters at times seemed to fall into a "mold" not be unique and true to themselves. I didn't like when the conversations became stilted, forced, or contrived. I really didn't like the rushing to a happy ever after ending without any development and leaving even that up to individual interpretation somewhat.
I did love sharing a mother/son book review experience, however. We look forward to doing this again at the end of next month with a different book! This was a lot of fun and it was fun to put both our thoughts on the blog and share. Be gentle, my son is still learning the fine art of reviewing but please share your thoughts with us. Do you want to see us do more of these? Does it inspire you to try this with your child? Let us know! And share a link if you try it as well!
I'm going to type my son's review in and then I'm going to make notes in a different font color so you know it's my thoughts not his. I thought for his first review for a publisher he did a very nice job.
The Lost Son is about a boy named Jacob who gets drunk at a party and kills Cody. Jacob then has to live with Sam, Cody's father for a month and help him at his Christmas tree farm.
The book begins at a party where Jacob is drunk and acting like a very obnoxious boy. He drives home and has an accident killing another teenager his age, Cody. Due to the problems he has caused Sam which could potentially put him out of business this Christmas, Sam asks the judge to give Jacob a chance. The judge realizes the predicament Sam is in and allows this unconventional punishment to stand. This will open the door to several opportunities for the characters in the novel to grow and change.
The things I liked
The plot and most of the characters were well thought out. The book was descriptive. The relationships didn't seem forced.
I enjoyed watching the characters each take their own personal journey that sort of came together in places and overlapped with one another's. Most of the relationships don't seem forced and there is conflict where appropriate.
The Things I didn't Like
Some of the book seemed rushed. Some of the scenes seemed sloppy by over filling the page with unimportant words then rushing more important aspects. The ending was not very well thought out and was one of the most rushed parts of the story. When you spend time investing yourself in a novel and then the ending is rushed you feel cheated at the end and that is what the reader will remember.
My son can be a pretty harsh critic when he feels wronged by his literature but he is also very accurate about the rushed ending. The last few pages feel thrown together and the reader is left to wonder what was the rush? We went on and on in parts, being over descriptive, then acted like the keyboard wouldn't allow a well thought out, well delivered conclusion that had to be rushed in fifty words or less. Especially when it begins willy nilly throwing characters together that may or may not work out but given what the reader has been led to believe about the main character's brother one can only wonder.
I'm also going to interject an adult observation, this novel seemed unable to devote itself to one perspective and do it well. I don't mean it head hopped, the writing technique in this was done well except for some heavy prose moments. I mean the writer would try to climb into the mind of a growing teenage boy and do an excellent job and then they would back out - no scramble out of it with both feet and have him thinking thoughts like a fifty year old man. The beginning party scene is probably what hooked me the most and yet, they lost that voice as the pages progressed and it wasn't from some great maturity on the character's part. It was as if they forgot they were describing things from a young man's perspective and told the story to an adult audience. This is going to be the biggest hurdle this book is going to face. It is marketed at a young adult audience and it reads as slowly in parts as the begats in the Bible would to a young person.
I watched it happen as we read this. My son would get interested, he would be hooked and they would lose him every time by hopping out of his maturity and interest level.
Overall, I would give this book three stars.
In conclusion, mom fell in love with the premise of the novel more than the way it played out. I loved the idea of a boy being held accountable for his wrong doing and being forced to see the effect his choices had made in other lives. I loved the way the book was clean and able to be shared with my thirteen year old as even our younger teens need to be aware the consequences of bad choices like drinking and driving.
I didn't love the way the prose hopped. I didn't love when the characters at times seemed to fall into a "mold" not be unique and true to themselves. I didn't like when the conversations became stilted, forced, or contrived. I really didn't like the rushing to a happy ever after ending without any development and leaving even that up to individual interpretation somewhat.
I did love sharing a mother/son book review experience, however. We look forward to doing this again at the end of next month with a different book! This was a lot of fun and it was fun to put both our thoughts on the blog and share. Be gentle, my son is still learning the fine art of reviewing but please share your thoughts with us. Do you want to see us do more of these? Does it inspire you to try this with your child? Let us know! And share a link if you try it as well!
Friday, September 14, 2012
Test Week
We finished our unit in History and Science at the same time and I think my little student had a wake up call. He expected mom to be easier than his teachers and he found out differently. Unlike his teachers, I know his potential and I know how smart he is so I expect excellent quality work. I gave him a chance to retest if he didn't do well but warned him if he failed a second time then we would simply redo those units. I don't have to move on and keep teaching a classroom, I can stay on rocks and minerals for six months if we need to get that material learned.
Later my husband and I sat down and talked about his test scores and what we noticed. In school a student is often allowed to get away with rote memorization. They don't have to learn the fact they have to memorize certain things about the fact. If you change or manipulate the wording, it will inadvertently confuse them in some cases. What I had designed was a review and then separate test that didn't allow for that style of learning. He had to actually know and have learned the material to score well because while I had given him the information he needed to test, I hadn't spelled it out for him. He was asked on review to know the steps of the rock cycle for example. On the test he was asked to draw a photo of the rock cycle. If one knows the steps in the cycle, drawing the chart (even using words instead of pictures) isn't difficult. If you just memorized a photograph and expected to fill in the blanks it and then there is no photograph or blanks to be filled in it presents a different challenge.
I also feel more confident that now his protests of "I learned this already" or "I already know this" are just that. Protests. I know I went more in-depth with the material than a typical grade school classroom covers. I did this to make sure we weren't just going over things he already knew. As a result, the tests were extremely challenging, but only if he hadn't paid attention to the material we covered. If he'd just filled in his worksheets and blew off his review then he was going to struggle. He has bragged since we started home school last year that in school he never did a single review and he passed every test. As most of us can recall, that sets up a bad study habit when you do get into Jr High and High School. So he filled in the questions on his review but he didn't study the review sheets. He was above reviewing. Hopefully these two tests taught him something about using the materials you are given wisely in the future and thinking you don't have to do something important.
After going over both of his low test scores with him in class and giving him back his review sheets, I allowed him to retest today. I'm happy to say he passed with flying colors and didn't take nearly as long to do them. I think what had frustrated me the most was on the first tests he would simply skip a 10 point question like drawing the rock cycle. I explained it would be much better to have given me a partial drawing than nothing at all because then he could have gotten at least some of the points for it.
I'm glad tomorrow is Friday! I feel like we have both earned our weekend this week - especially since he's testing in Math tomorrow. (Refer to my post last year about cookies, though instead of those he and I will be making zucchini bread. He wasn't thrilled about learning how to do this project but he did the garden with us this summer for his scouting badge and I thought this would be a great chance for him to get some life skills/home ec in by helping me prep the zucchini and baking the breads to freeze. We will be using Grandma's recipe and I will have to do a follow up post to let you know it turns out!)
Oh and for the curious have a peek at our test, modify it, and feel free to use with your students: Test is Here
Later my husband and I sat down and talked about his test scores and what we noticed. In school a student is often allowed to get away with rote memorization. They don't have to learn the fact they have to memorize certain things about the fact. If you change or manipulate the wording, it will inadvertently confuse them in some cases. What I had designed was a review and then separate test that didn't allow for that style of learning. He had to actually know and have learned the material to score well because while I had given him the information he needed to test, I hadn't spelled it out for him. He was asked on review to know the steps of the rock cycle for example. On the test he was asked to draw a photo of the rock cycle. If one knows the steps in the cycle, drawing the chart (even using words instead of pictures) isn't difficult. If you just memorized a photograph and expected to fill in the blanks it and then there is no photograph or blanks to be filled in it presents a different challenge.
I also feel more confident that now his protests of "I learned this already" or "I already know this" are just that. Protests. I know I went more in-depth with the material than a typical grade school classroom covers. I did this to make sure we weren't just going over things he already knew. As a result, the tests were extremely challenging, but only if he hadn't paid attention to the material we covered. If he'd just filled in his worksheets and blew off his review then he was going to struggle. He has bragged since we started home school last year that in school he never did a single review and he passed every test. As most of us can recall, that sets up a bad study habit when you do get into Jr High and High School. So he filled in the questions on his review but he didn't study the review sheets. He was above reviewing. Hopefully these two tests taught him something about using the materials you are given wisely in the future and thinking you don't have to do something important.
After going over both of his low test scores with him in class and giving him back his review sheets, I allowed him to retest today. I'm happy to say he passed with flying colors and didn't take nearly as long to do them. I think what had frustrated me the most was on the first tests he would simply skip a 10 point question like drawing the rock cycle. I explained it would be much better to have given me a partial drawing than nothing at all because then he could have gotten at least some of the points for it.
I'm glad tomorrow is Friday! I feel like we have both earned our weekend this week - especially since he's testing in Math tomorrow. (Refer to my post last year about cookies, though instead of those he and I will be making zucchini bread. He wasn't thrilled about learning how to do this project but he did the garden with us this summer for his scouting badge and I thought this would be a great chance for him to get some life skills/home ec in by helping me prep the zucchini and baking the breads to freeze. We will be using Grandma's recipe and I will have to do a follow up post to let you know it turns out!)
Oh and for the curious have a peek at our test, modify it, and feel free to use with your students: Test is Here
Wednesday, September 5, 2012
Rocks are Fun!
For science we have been studying rocks and minerals. This is one of those areas where we have gone more in depth than he covered in 3rd grade. He hasn't been exactly enthusiastic. "It's just rocks, mom."
So we made a visit to the Planetarium last week. He thought it was a cool way to get some Science credit for school and play with some demonstrations. He never knew my secret ninja plan. I even happily agreed to let him browse the gift shop and purchase a little bag of pretty, polished rocks. All along I was searching for my secret weapon. I found it. Purchased it with his rocks. Brought it home and put it away quietly for this week.
Yesterday, I pulled it out.
Yes, it is a simple little test kit with some mineral samples. To a boy it is fun in a box. For about 10.00 your son's eyes will light up for an hour. He will run all of the tests on the rocks but the most fun is when you let him break it for the cleavage/fracture test. We saved a couple of minerals in tact for test day but for the most part I just let him have fun as he filled in his chart.
A copy of the chart we used can be found here: Mineral Chart
We also used this guide
It also had me look up our local minerals and rocks. I am hoping to take a Saturday trip and collect a few of our state's rocks/minerals to bring home and sample. This should be a fun way to entertain the family for a day without breaking the bank.
Oh and if you are wondering the outcome of the story, did mom win? Yes, yes she did. After breaking a few rocks, I asked him if science was fun. His answer? "Yes!"
So we made a visit to the Planetarium last week. He thought it was a cool way to get some Science credit for school and play with some demonstrations. He never knew my secret ninja plan. I even happily agreed to let him browse the gift shop and purchase a little bag of pretty, polished rocks. All along I was searching for my secret weapon. I found it. Purchased it with his rocks. Brought it home and put it away quietly for this week.
Yesterday, I pulled it out.
Yes, it is a simple little test kit with some mineral samples. To a boy it is fun in a box. For about 10.00 your son's eyes will light up for an hour. He will run all of the tests on the rocks but the most fun is when you let him break it for the cleavage/fracture test. We saved a couple of minerals in tact for test day but for the most part I just let him have fun as he filled in his chart.
A copy of the chart we used can be found here: Mineral Chart
We also used this guide
It also had me look up our local minerals and rocks. I am hoping to take a Saturday trip and collect a few of our state's rocks/minerals to bring home and sample. This should be a fun way to entertain the family for a day without breaking the bank.
Oh and if you are wondering the outcome of the story, did mom win? Yes, yes she did. After breaking a few rocks, I asked him if science was fun. His answer? "Yes!"
Monday, September 3, 2012
Our First Month Back in School
Things have gone very well so far this school year. I do really love teaching my son. Every day is a new journey or adventure for us.
For reading we've started reading Anne of Green Gables. He trusts my judgement in choosing our novel to read and discuss for class. I encouraged him to help me select and when he didn't I went with an old classic. I have also been working on developing a guide for how to use this novel in your home school classroom. It has several questions, a writing journal question, ways to use an art journal, tie in's with history/geography classes, and vocabulary word lists.
Math we are still doing prep work for pre Alegbra and learning our % conversions, etc.
History we started from the beginning of America and have talked about the first people to come into the United States which has led us to a unit of studies on various Indian groups. I loved these studies as a child and the most ironic thing has happened while we were studying the Indians. I was also working on a family tree in my spare time at a popular genealogy website.
Through my subscription I am able to link with other members who also have genetic links on my family tree. I began studying something and discovered that one of my great grandmother's relatives had also done some research on her family line. Her mother was full blooded Cherokee.
This sort of tied in the unit of studies we have been doing and really lit my fire for not only teaching, but learning about this. We are also planning to tie this in with his scout troop and the Indian Lore badge.
I really want to share a few of my favorite websites with you for this:
Videos
Indian Sign Language
In science last year we studied a lot about biology and I wasn't really clear on what he knew about the other sciences. So I took us back to the basics here as well hoping to build from the ground up in the educational process. He groaned a little and informed he knew all about minerals and rocks, rock cycles, etc. I told him to humor me. By lesson three he discovered he may have learned something about them in school but he was not as all knowing as he had led mom to believe. He was not aware of the minerals having a formula name, what the formula name meant, or the charts and table graphs. The moral here? An old dog can always learn new tricks or ways to do those tricks!
One of my favorite science resources
I'm also in the planning stages to teach a local class on baby sitting for my son and the older children in the local home school group. We will cover early childhood development, basics of caring for a baby and small children, and so much more. I'm excited about this project and look forward to getting everything planned out in the next week or two. I just have to cross my fingers there are enough children that want to learn this type of thing.
Now that I've told you all about our first month of school, what are you studying with your children this year? Is there anything you are excited to learn more about with them?
For reading we've started reading Anne of Green Gables. He trusts my judgement in choosing our novel to read and discuss for class. I encouraged him to help me select and when he didn't I went with an old classic. I have also been working on developing a guide for how to use this novel in your home school classroom. It has several questions, a writing journal question, ways to use an art journal, tie in's with history/geography classes, and vocabulary word lists.
Math we are still doing prep work for pre Alegbra and learning our % conversions, etc.
History we started from the beginning of America and have talked about the first people to come into the United States which has led us to a unit of studies on various Indian groups. I loved these studies as a child and the most ironic thing has happened while we were studying the Indians. I was also working on a family tree in my spare time at a popular genealogy website.
Through my subscription I am able to link with other members who also have genetic links on my family tree. I began studying something and discovered that one of my great grandmother's relatives had also done some research on her family line. Her mother was full blooded Cherokee.
This sort of tied in the unit of studies we have been doing and really lit my fire for not only teaching, but learning about this. We are also planning to tie this in with his scout troop and the Indian Lore badge.
I really want to share a few of my favorite websites with you for this:
Videos
Indian Sign Language
In science last year we studied a lot about biology and I wasn't really clear on what he knew about the other sciences. So I took us back to the basics here as well hoping to build from the ground up in the educational process. He groaned a little and informed he knew all about minerals and rocks, rock cycles, etc. I told him to humor me. By lesson three he discovered he may have learned something about them in school but he was not as all knowing as he had led mom to believe. He was not aware of the minerals having a formula name, what the formula name meant, or the charts and table graphs. The moral here? An old dog can always learn new tricks or ways to do those tricks!
One of my favorite science resources
I'm also in the planning stages to teach a local class on baby sitting for my son and the older children in the local home school group. We will cover early childhood development, basics of caring for a baby and small children, and so much more. I'm excited about this project and look forward to getting everything planned out in the next week or two. I just have to cross my fingers there are enough children that want to learn this type of thing.
Now that I've told you all about our first month of school, what are you studying with your children this year? Is there anything you are excited to learn more about with them?
Thursday, August 9, 2012
Character Development Sheet
For creative writing class I assigned a character development sheet. The purpose of this assignment was to begin developing a character he will use in a future writing project. This is meant to get him to think about his characters before he builds the story. So he knows what motivates them to react to things and situations. What motivates them to do something?
A good story is built on the foundation of good characters. Think about the books you have read. The characters you fell in love with. Sometimes we relate to a character in a very emotional way when reading a piece of literature. Millions of young ladies and women found something in Edward Cullen they wanted in their lives. Or Jacob. These young men came alive on the page for the readers. They had clear motivations. They behaved according to their personality. Harry Potter, beloved by millions, changed and grew gradually over the course of his series. He continued to work on the side of good in the age old battle of good versus evil but along the way there were times he wondered where he truly stood. Where those around him stood. He grew up and matured but retained his core values.
These are the characters every writer wants to build. These are the characters we have to teach young writers how to build. To help with this I have created a resource called the Character Development Sheet. I have shared this and will give the link to download a printable version, it is a word file.
A quick look at what this sheet is:
A good story is built on the foundation of good characters. Think about the books you have read. The characters you fell in love with. Sometimes we relate to a character in a very emotional way when reading a piece of literature. Millions of young ladies and women found something in Edward Cullen they wanted in their lives. Or Jacob. These young men came alive on the page for the readers. They had clear motivations. They behaved according to their personality. Harry Potter, beloved by millions, changed and grew gradually over the course of his series. He continued to work on the side of good in the age old battle of good versus evil but along the way there were times he wondered where he truly stood. Where those around him stood. He grew up and matured but retained his core values.
These are the characters every writer wants to build. These are the characters we have to teach young writers how to build. To help with this I have created a resource called the Character Development Sheet. I have shared this and will give the link to download a printable version, it is a word file.
A quick look at what this sheet is:
Creative Writing
Character Development Sheet
Name of character:
Age of character:
Physical Description (be
specific: hair color, length, eye color, skin tone, facial marks such as
freckles, height, weight)
Personality (funny, sad,
talkative, etc):
History of character:
Dreams, Desires, Goals of
character:
How would this character
express/feel happy?
Sad?
Mad?
Surprise?
Tuesday, August 7, 2012
Preparing For the New Year
Where oh where did our summer go?
It seems like the time has flown by this summer and we really didn't go anywhere big or do anything spectacular this summer. We mostly chilled at home and welcomed some guests for the 4th. Went to places and events close to home and yet, here we are facing the start of a new school year.
Anyone else procrastinate?
I know the prepared home school parent has already checked their curriculum needs off on the list, ordered their supplies, and probably outlined the first few months. I was going to do those things. I really was. Except I didn't. I did do a shop earlier this summer and collected some more books to add to my potential curriculum pile, does that count for early bird preparation? I also made sure I grabbed some of the hot school supply deals locally and we are in no danger of not being able to find a pencil or pen in the morning.
The rest of it?
I plan as I go would be the best way to describe it. I know where we left off at the beginning of the summer. I know which road we are taking in each course. I have a rough road map. So the first few days I will be faking it. I will pretend I have outlined our year's worth of courses, books, materials, and learning supplies. I will pretend I know exactly how we're going to get everything done by the end of year. I will pretend I know already what we have to cover, what is optional, and what is just for fun.
This post was to?
This post was to encourage all parents that are home schooling this year. It doesn't matter how much you have organized or not organized, school is approaching quickly. You will be ready. You will smile. You will laugh. You will enjoy your children. You will get the important things done. Don't stress. Don't worry. Just enjoy these last few moments before the craziness of the new school year and impending deadlines take over. There's still time (especially if you know you are terrible at preparing and are an Amazon Prime subscriber - 2 day shipping! See I DO know how to plan ahead!)
Tuesday, June 26, 2012
Our Many Faces
Since creating this blog, I have tried to get our face out there in a few spots. I am still learning and working on the best ways to find a loyal reader base but for those of you interested you can find us:
On Pintrest: http://pinterest.com/katybug273/home-school-ideas/
On Facebook: Just click that little box over on the side. I've made that one easy for you!
I'll be working on a Twitter. My main problem with that site is that I haven't found a great way to utilize it. Some have a great niche market with that site and reach a lot of readers, but for me personally, I just haven't found it to be very useful in the past. I am probably doing it wrong so if anyone knows of great ways to utilize Twitter leave me a comment, I'm always open for suggestions.
Vote for Us: http://www.circleofmoms.com/top25/Top-25-Homeschooling-Moms-2012#_
We REALLY need your votes. It's encouraging to see them tally up and know that the information you are putting out there is useful to other parents. It's been so amazing to realize that people do enjoy some of the posts I have made. I try to pour out my heart sometimes and other times just spread a smile or my thoughts but in any case, I am building myself a very cozy little corner.
On Amazon: I did it. I wrote a non fiction book. I think it's a great tool and I hope others do too. Let me know!
http://www.amazon.com/Grade-Spelling-Home-School-ebook/dp/B007WYH3FC/ref=sr_1_5?ie=UTF8&qid=1340779050&sr=8-5&keywords=6th+Grade+Spelling
Lastly, don't forget to follow my blog here. Just click the little follow button. So easy and I appreciate it so much!
On Pintrest: http://pinterest.com/katybug273/home-school-ideas/
On Facebook: Just click that little box over on the side. I've made that one easy for you!
I'll be working on a Twitter. My main problem with that site is that I haven't found a great way to utilize it. Some have a great niche market with that site and reach a lot of readers, but for me personally, I just haven't found it to be very useful in the past. I am probably doing it wrong so if anyone knows of great ways to utilize Twitter leave me a comment, I'm always open for suggestions.
Vote for Us: http://www.circleofmoms.com/top25/Top-25-Homeschooling-Moms-2012#_
We REALLY need your votes. It's encouraging to see them tally up and know that the information you are putting out there is useful to other parents. It's been so amazing to realize that people do enjoy some of the posts I have made. I try to pour out my heart sometimes and other times just spread a smile or my thoughts but in any case, I am building myself a very cozy little corner.
On Amazon: I did it. I wrote a non fiction book. I think it's a great tool and I hope others do too. Let me know!
http://www.amazon.com/Grade-Spelling-Home-School-ebook/dp/B007WYH3FC/ref=sr_1_5?ie=UTF8&qid=1340779050&sr=8-5&keywords=6th+Grade+Spelling
Lastly, don't forget to follow my blog here. Just click the little follow button. So easy and I appreciate it so much!
Monday, June 18, 2012
Vacation: Full of Learning Opportunties
You don't have to be a home school parent to recognize and enjoy all the learning opportunities presented during summer vacation.
Did you read that sentence? Read it again. Remember it. All around us, the world is in action. Are you taking a summer vacation? Of course pack some books to relax and fall asleep with in the evenings but what about the notebook? They may need to draw or write a short journal entry to keep them entertained on a long car ride or flight.
What are you doing to enjoy your summer?
Going to the beach?
Play in sand for a little bit but learn about the ocean and the wildlife found in the area. Show them the flowers and plants. Teach them the names of these things. Spend a few quiet moments watching birds. Pick up seas shells that you can take home and look at under a microscope or play with at home. Leave foot prints in the sand, use at as an opportunity to talk a few moments about how fossils are really just big footprints left behind in the earth. Or take a few minutes to share about the carbon foot print we are all leaving everyday on Earth. Find something that interests you and engage your child. If you are not a bird person, it's really hard to teach them to enjoy bird watching. They will sense your disinterest in the topic.
Are you going camping?
Talk about the terrain where you are at. Take a hike. Pick up some leaves. Notice the plants. The animals. The natural resources such as mountains, caves, creeks.
Are you going on a cruise?
Before you go spend a few minutes learning about the area you are going to visit. Engage them in fun things to know about the place you are visiting.
Are you going to a theme park?
There are several theme parks that have a lot of knowledge. There are several fun books on Walt Disney's life. Share his story. Follow the birth of Mickey Mouse. Learn about animation.
Are you staying home?
Chances are there are several learning resources in your own backyard. You can garden with the kids. You can take advantage of local places you may not have visited. We are making it a goal through out this summer and fall to go out and find the fun places to visit that are relatively close to our home. For instance we have discovered a copper mine that was a fun, engaging learning experience. We have mountains we can go up and view. We have fishing spots that are full of learning ability.
Summer should be fun but fun is no reason not to learn. Learning can be fun. You just need to take the first step and look for the great things to do.
Did you read that sentence? Read it again. Remember it. All around us, the world is in action. Are you taking a summer vacation? Of course pack some books to relax and fall asleep with in the evenings but what about the notebook? They may need to draw or write a short journal entry to keep them entertained on a long car ride or flight.
What are you doing to enjoy your summer?
Going to the beach?
Play in sand for a little bit but learn about the ocean and the wildlife found in the area. Show them the flowers and plants. Teach them the names of these things. Spend a few quiet moments watching birds. Pick up seas shells that you can take home and look at under a microscope or play with at home. Leave foot prints in the sand, use at as an opportunity to talk a few moments about how fossils are really just big footprints left behind in the earth. Or take a few minutes to share about the carbon foot print we are all leaving everyday on Earth. Find something that interests you and engage your child. If you are not a bird person, it's really hard to teach them to enjoy bird watching. They will sense your disinterest in the topic.
Are you going camping?
Talk about the terrain where you are at. Take a hike. Pick up some leaves. Notice the plants. The animals. The natural resources such as mountains, caves, creeks.
Are you going on a cruise?
Before you go spend a few minutes learning about the area you are going to visit. Engage them in fun things to know about the place you are visiting.
Are you going to a theme park?
There are several theme parks that have a lot of knowledge. There are several fun books on Walt Disney's life. Share his story. Follow the birth of Mickey Mouse. Learn about animation.
Are you staying home?
Chances are there are several learning resources in your own backyard. You can garden with the kids. You can take advantage of local places you may not have visited. We are making it a goal through out this summer and fall to go out and find the fun places to visit that are relatively close to our home. For instance we have discovered a copper mine that was a fun, engaging learning experience. We have mountains we can go up and view. We have fishing spots that are full of learning ability.
Summer should be fun but fun is no reason not to learn. Learning can be fun. You just need to take the first step and look for the great things to do.
Saturday, June 16, 2012
Fun, Science, and Root Beer
How do these three things go together?
Teach your kids a little bit of science and learn about dry ice.
This page has a lot of fun facts and ideas of things you can add to this idea with: http://www.stevespanglerscience.com/experiment/dry-ice-fun-learning-about-dry-ice
Then plan a weekend fun activity with the family or if you are doing a BBQ or 4th of July celebration add this to your list of things to do and show them dry ice in action!
Root Beer
4 lbs of sugar
2 oz of Root Beer Concentrate
4 gallons of water
4 lbs of dry ice.
Mix everything but the dry ice in a clean 5 gallon bucket. Then add your dry ice and stir once in awhile to keep the dry ice off the bucket. When the dry ice dissolves in about 20 minutes or so you have root beer to enjoy!
The kids will love how it looks like a witches brew as it is melting and that's a great time to tell them all about dry ice.
It is really easy to do (wear gloves handling the dry ice) and inexpensive. 5 gallons of root beer costs approximately $10.00.
Where to find dry ice? Check with your local grocers as a lot of them carry it or google your city, state and dry ice. There are various resources for this information.
Have fun!
Teach your kids a little bit of science and learn about dry ice.
This page has a lot of fun facts and ideas of things you can add to this idea with: http://www.stevespanglerscience.com/experiment/dry-ice-fun-learning-about-dry-ice
Then plan a weekend fun activity with the family or if you are doing a BBQ or 4th of July celebration add this to your list of things to do and show them dry ice in action!
Root Beer
4 lbs of sugar
2 oz of Root Beer Concentrate
4 gallons of water
4 lbs of dry ice.
Mix everything but the dry ice in a clean 5 gallon bucket. Then add your dry ice and stir once in awhile to keep the dry ice off the bucket. When the dry ice dissolves in about 20 minutes or so you have root beer to enjoy!
The kids will love how it looks like a witches brew as it is melting and that's a great time to tell them all about dry ice.
It is really easy to do (wear gloves handling the dry ice) and inexpensive. 5 gallons of root beer costs approximately $10.00.
Where to find dry ice? Check with your local grocers as a lot of them carry it or google your city, state and dry ice. There are various resources for this information.
Have fun!
Monday, June 11, 2012
Top 25 Home School Blogs
It's a long shot for me to get in this thing as I'm still very new to the blogging world but anyone who would like to throw me a vote may do so at:
http://www.circleofmoms.com/top25/Top-25-Homeschooling-Moms-2012#_
We are pending for one day and then we will be moved to the main list. Thanks so much for your support!
http://www.circleofmoms.com/top25/Top-25-Homeschooling-Moms-2012#_
We are pending for one day and then we will be moved to the main list. Thanks so much for your support!
Friday, May 25, 2012
Are Schools Crossing A Line?
It seems like everyday there is a new story in the news about a child disciplined and sent home for what they are wearing. It has become a hot topic on many social networking sights with various parents chiming in on right or wrong.
When it comes to government, there is a big voice demanding it step out of our homes. Let us live our lives as long as we are doing no harm to others. So why do so many jump in to defend schools for doing the same things with our children?
Now I understand dress codes. I even like some aspects of a dress code. It does encourage self discipline, better hygiene habits, and keep children from picking on someone for not having the right label on their jeans. However, uniforms are taken too far when they take away our children's sense of identity, their individuality. Let's just look at one photo of a little girl who's school told her she could not be in her class photo:
What is wrong with that hair? Nothing. It may not be my choice of style but it expressed who this child was and how she wanted her class mates to remember her. Rather than having the exact same look as all the other children, she wanted to stand out in her class photos. Is that such a terrible thing? To want to be yourself? To be true to yourself?
And let's get our lawyer book out and read the rules. No braids or plaits, ribbons in hair must be certain colors. Hmmm. This is NOT a braid. This is NOT a plait. There are NO ribbons in her hair. Technically this broke no rules. Yet a principal (one person) was given the chance to make a judgement call and did so. With no listening to the parent's rationale or reasoning.
Let's take a look at another incident which involved a high school young lady. She was sent home for being in violation of the school dress code that her skirt was too short. However, when measured her skirt was TWO inched LONGER than the dress code specified.
Yet parents are still defending the school's decision and berating the father who posted this on his blog as if he were a terrible parent for making a big deal of the issue. But was he wrong? Was he right? Are schools going too far?
Now, I do agree that some uniform codes are necessary. No one wants their teenage son sitting next to a girl in chemistry who is giving him a full view of every asset God gave her. So in that regard schools do need a sense of proper dressing. They do need to enforce those things. But in these cases I find nothing improper here. Just individuals expressing themselves by their clothing choices. And that brings me to my point.
I think more school environments are doing everything they can to stifle children as individuals. Children are not supposed to question the science teacher that is teaching evolution. They are not supposed to ask hard questions. They are not supposed to be themselves. The war is starting with minor clothing choices and if parents ignore the blatant abuse of these policies by their makers, then they are allowing a precedent to be set that they will all regret at some point. When their child is an adult machine who goes through rotes each day rather than enjoys life. When their child has become a government robot not an educated, risk taking, question asking voter. So before you defend a bad judgement call because it is coming from a principal, superintendent, or school board - look at the entire issue. Then ask yourself what precedent this sets for our future? Our children's future? Our grand children?
Make no mistake that this is a cog in a wheel. However, it is okay to support boys wearing slacks and collared shirts and still say sending a girl home for violations that are clearly not violations is okay! It is okay to buck the system. Ask questions. If this were your child it is your choice to blog or not to blog. To get angry or be accepting but you shouldn't cast judgement on a parent who does ask questions or does ask how far we will allow this to go? Because it's an important issue that goes a little deeper than what you see on the surface.
Furthermore, this is setting a precedent for peer bullying. If you don't believe that then look up the story of what happened to a BYU student for wearing a modern, modest dress at the university library. I will even link it here:
http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/blogsmoviecricket/53522832-66/byu-note-twitter-code.html.csp
Not only were his actions despicable but they border on bully behavior. It was encouraged and taught to him by schools and authority figures. Was he wrong? Or were the people who brought him up that way the ones who should be answering to this young lady for the note she got?
Just some food for thought...............
When it comes to government, there is a big voice demanding it step out of our homes. Let us live our lives as long as we are doing no harm to others. So why do so many jump in to defend schools for doing the same things with our children?
Now I understand dress codes. I even like some aspects of a dress code. It does encourage self discipline, better hygiene habits, and keep children from picking on someone for not having the right label on their jeans. However, uniforms are taken too far when they take away our children's sense of identity, their individuality. Let's just look at one photo of a little girl who's school told her she could not be in her class photo:
What is wrong with that hair? Nothing. It may not be my choice of style but it expressed who this child was and how she wanted her class mates to remember her. Rather than having the exact same look as all the other children, she wanted to stand out in her class photos. Is that such a terrible thing? To want to be yourself? To be true to yourself?
And let's get our lawyer book out and read the rules. No braids or plaits, ribbons in hair must be certain colors. Hmmm. This is NOT a braid. This is NOT a plait. There are NO ribbons in her hair. Technically this broke no rules. Yet a principal (one person) was given the chance to make a judgement call and did so. With no listening to the parent's rationale or reasoning.
Let's take a look at another incident which involved a high school young lady. She was sent home for being in violation of the school dress code that her skirt was too short. However, when measured her skirt was TWO inched LONGER than the dress code specified.
Yet parents are still defending the school's decision and berating the father who posted this on his blog as if he were a terrible parent for making a big deal of the issue. But was he wrong? Was he right? Are schools going too far?
Now, I do agree that some uniform codes are necessary. No one wants their teenage son sitting next to a girl in chemistry who is giving him a full view of every asset God gave her. So in that regard schools do need a sense of proper dressing. They do need to enforce those things. But in these cases I find nothing improper here. Just individuals expressing themselves by their clothing choices. And that brings me to my point.
I think more school environments are doing everything they can to stifle children as individuals. Children are not supposed to question the science teacher that is teaching evolution. They are not supposed to ask hard questions. They are not supposed to be themselves. The war is starting with minor clothing choices and if parents ignore the blatant abuse of these policies by their makers, then they are allowing a precedent to be set that they will all regret at some point. When their child is an adult machine who goes through rotes each day rather than enjoys life. When their child has become a government robot not an educated, risk taking, question asking voter. So before you defend a bad judgement call because it is coming from a principal, superintendent, or school board - look at the entire issue. Then ask yourself what precedent this sets for our future? Our children's future? Our grand children?
Make no mistake that this is a cog in a wheel. However, it is okay to support boys wearing slacks and collared shirts and still say sending a girl home for violations that are clearly not violations is okay! It is okay to buck the system. Ask questions. If this were your child it is your choice to blog or not to blog. To get angry or be accepting but you shouldn't cast judgement on a parent who does ask questions or does ask how far we will allow this to go? Because it's an important issue that goes a little deeper than what you see on the surface.
Furthermore, this is setting a precedent for peer bullying. If you don't believe that then look up the story of what happened to a BYU student for wearing a modern, modest dress at the university library. I will even link it here:
http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/blogsmoviecricket/53522832-66/byu-note-twitter-code.html.csp
Not only were his actions despicable but they border on bully behavior. It was encouraged and taught to him by schools and authority figures. Was he wrong? Or were the people who brought him up that way the ones who should be answering to this young lady for the note she got?
Just some food for thought...............
Thursday, April 26, 2012
On an Airplane
We are doing a poetry unit right now and so each day my son gets a new poetry assignment.
I loved the job he did on this one and couldn't resist sharing it.
On An Airplane
The ticket ladies are like giants
Then we run like cheetahs to get to our gate.
We sit and sit and sit
Finally, we get in a line with sweaty people
Their sweat reminded me of rain forests
Then we get on the plane
The airplane lady told us to put our seat belts on
The plane went up, up, and up
I looked out the window,
the people looked like ants
We passed the Grand Canyon
It just looked like a hole
I fell asleep
When I woke up
we got off the plane
Aunt May was there to pick us up, up, and up
I loved the job he did on this one and couldn't resist sharing it.
On An Airplane
The ticket ladies are like giants
Then we run like cheetahs to get to our gate.
We sit and sit and sit
Finally, we get in a line with sweaty people
Their sweat reminded me of rain forests
Then we get on the plane
The airplane lady told us to put our seat belts on
The plane went up, up, and up
I looked out the window,
the people looked like ants
We passed the Grand Canyon
It just looked like a hole
I fell asleep
When I woke up
we got off the plane
Aunt May was there to pick us up, up, and up
Tuesday, April 24, 2012
6th Grade Spelling
My first non fiction book is live on the Kindle today, after 90 days it will be released via the Nook as well.
It was a trial and error experience learning how to format it correctly and we still have a few things to tweak when we figure out how on the Table of Contents but I hope other homeschool parents will find the book informative and useful.
I wrote up our complete spelling curriculum and offered over 300 words to use for 6th graders. I divided up each day into activities that strengthen their writing, spelling, reading, and speaking. I believe that while some standard spelling teaching methods do work it's important to implement other activities as well and experiment to find what fits your child perfectly.
With that in mind the book contains several ideas and you can modify it to fit your needs or methods. If nothing else the extensive word list is worth the 4.99 price.
Kindle owners can borrow it for free from the lending library.
There are other grades being planned and those will also contain 300 words each with various activities. I spent a lot of time developing worksheets and small lessons that are included in these books.
There is also an answer key included.
Tuesday, April 17, 2012
Religious Lessons
I'm about to share a very valuable resource for my family. And it is completely, totally FREE.
Before we began home school, we used this as a discipline tool when he had really pushed his limits. Let's face it as parent's you can't always ground, take away, and time out your children.
It gets old and they stop caring.
Plus where is the value of learning in those lessons? When you really think about it, that falls in line more with bribery than teaching them the value of your rules, respecting authority, or any of the things you want them to learn.
Now that we home school, we have incorporated these into one or two monthly class sessions because I really wanted him to finish up this project.
Any parent can use this! Not just the home school parent.
Is your child being disrespectful? Resenting your authority? Disobeying? Acting out? Getting in trouble?
If you are a Christian and want to pass on religious values to your children, read some of these and see if they can't be used to make a difference in your home as well.
I think they are very nicely worded and teach children a lot.
Instead of just taking away the games until they clean their room, come home from playing on time, or obey the rules why not hand them one of these lessons and their bible so they can understand where you are coming from and why?
It has made a difference in our house before home school. We started with lesson one. I also think the lessons contain excellent value for the tweens and young teens in our life to really grasp early.
There are so many books and resources that focus on teaching our young children the basics: Be Kind, Be Forgiving, Be Loving, Don't Steal. There aren't that many for our older children and this series fills in the gap.
Here is the link to download and print your lessons:
http://www.middletownbiblechurch.org/relation/relation.htm
But here is a list of topics they cover:
1. Why Parents - This explains and covers why God made parents and what our intended role is to be.
2. Why Parents Are Not - This is a little tougher for mom and dad because this explains why we sometimes do make mistakes. It's a great parent that realizes, hey, I mess up sometimes. But this lesson does a good job of explaining all of the pressures and stresses put on parents in today's world. It also explains to the child who may be raised in church while mom and dad are not believers how to appropriately set an example.
I love this lesson because at the end it tells children even IF they think mom and dad are wrong, they need to be the ones to lead the spiritual life and lead by example and do what they are supposed to do.
3. Parents - Why and Why Not - This asks them questions. That's all it does and gives them scriptures to look up or use when answering some of them. It really encourages them to think and respond. It gives you a door of opportunity to talk with them. It addresses discipline and it addresses spanking, it does not condemn or approve, it asks and gives you as a parent the opportunity to really talk to your child. It's an excellent resource.
4. Why Am I Here (Where do Children Fit In?) - Explains God's purpose for them as individuals and also guides them in how to make good choices and help guide their parents. Yes, sometimes we need to be taught things like how to let go of our children when the time comes.
5. Who is Responsible? (Who Me? Yes You!) - I love this lesson. It teaches them exactly what responsibility is and makes them think about who is responsible for problems. Such as failing a test. Is it the teacher's fault? The parent's? Or the child who didn't study and went out to play?
6. Learning to Like the Limits - Another great lesson this one puts emphasis on why parent's have rules and set limits.
7. Do's and Dont's - An expansion of the limits lesson this one delves into the bible very heavily and expects them to look up and read scriptures and fill out some of God's do's and do not's.
8. Convicted? Of course & Conviction Of Course - This deals with learning how to react to the rules or limits placed on us. It talks about obeying God's rules and our parent's rules. It really explores the attitude of the child within the rules and encourages them to behave appropriately.
9. Relationships for Real and For Right - This explores making and keeping the right kind of friendships. The kind of friendships and relationships that God wants us to make. That encourage us to do the right thing and be honorable. A very important lesson in my opinion at an age where peer pressure is going to be at an all time high in their lives.
10. Don't Confuse the Process with the Product - A lesson that reminds them they are in process and are not a finished product. Not to judge themselves because God is still working on them and molding them into the individual they will become.
11. Am I Ready to Go Down the Road with Delight - Again this deals with attitudes as they go through the process of growing up. Great lesson.
12. Nobody Hears Me and I Hear Nobody - Encourages them to lean on God and other Christians as they go through the process of growing up.
I especially encourage parents with behavioral issues to give these lessons a go. My son was diagnosed very early in life with Oppositional Defiant Disorder. At a certain age talking with him was our best tool. These lessons encourage him to grow and give me things to talk to him about and really have opened up a door for us. I am very pleased with the results and I encourage any parent who is at their wit's end from dealing with defiance, stubborn behaviors, or even tantrums to give these a try. They put the ball in your child's court and really give them a chance to learn and see their behavior in a new light too.
Before we began home school, we used this as a discipline tool when he had really pushed his limits. Let's face it as parent's you can't always ground, take away, and time out your children.
It gets old and they stop caring.
Plus where is the value of learning in those lessons? When you really think about it, that falls in line more with bribery than teaching them the value of your rules, respecting authority, or any of the things you want them to learn.
Now that we home school, we have incorporated these into one or two monthly class sessions because I really wanted him to finish up this project.
Any parent can use this! Not just the home school parent.
Is your child being disrespectful? Resenting your authority? Disobeying? Acting out? Getting in trouble?
If you are a Christian and want to pass on religious values to your children, read some of these and see if they can't be used to make a difference in your home as well.
I think they are very nicely worded and teach children a lot.
Instead of just taking away the games until they clean their room, come home from playing on time, or obey the rules why not hand them one of these lessons and their bible so they can understand where you are coming from and why?
It has made a difference in our house before home school. We started with lesson one. I also think the lessons contain excellent value for the tweens and young teens in our life to really grasp early.
There are so many books and resources that focus on teaching our young children the basics: Be Kind, Be Forgiving, Be Loving, Don't Steal. There aren't that many for our older children and this series fills in the gap.
Here is the link to download and print your lessons:
http://www.middletownbiblechurch.org/relation/relation.htm
But here is a list of topics they cover:
1. Why Parents - This explains and covers why God made parents and what our intended role is to be.
2. Why Parents Are Not - This is a little tougher for mom and dad because this explains why we sometimes do make mistakes. It's a great parent that realizes, hey, I mess up sometimes. But this lesson does a good job of explaining all of the pressures and stresses put on parents in today's world. It also explains to the child who may be raised in church while mom and dad are not believers how to appropriately set an example.
I love this lesson because at the end it tells children even IF they think mom and dad are wrong, they need to be the ones to lead the spiritual life and lead by example and do what they are supposed to do.
3. Parents - Why and Why Not - This asks them questions. That's all it does and gives them scriptures to look up or use when answering some of them. It really encourages them to think and respond. It gives you a door of opportunity to talk with them. It addresses discipline and it addresses spanking, it does not condemn or approve, it asks and gives you as a parent the opportunity to really talk to your child. It's an excellent resource.
4. Why Am I Here (Where do Children Fit In?) - Explains God's purpose for them as individuals and also guides them in how to make good choices and help guide their parents. Yes, sometimes we need to be taught things like how to let go of our children when the time comes.
5. Who is Responsible? (Who Me? Yes You!) - I love this lesson. It teaches them exactly what responsibility is and makes them think about who is responsible for problems. Such as failing a test. Is it the teacher's fault? The parent's? Or the child who didn't study and went out to play?
6. Learning to Like the Limits - Another great lesson this one puts emphasis on why parent's have rules and set limits.
7. Do's and Dont's - An expansion of the limits lesson this one delves into the bible very heavily and expects them to look up and read scriptures and fill out some of God's do's and do not's.
8. Convicted? Of course & Conviction Of Course - This deals with learning how to react to the rules or limits placed on us. It talks about obeying God's rules and our parent's rules. It really explores the attitude of the child within the rules and encourages them to behave appropriately.
9. Relationships for Real and For Right - This explores making and keeping the right kind of friendships. The kind of friendships and relationships that God wants us to make. That encourage us to do the right thing and be honorable. A very important lesson in my opinion at an age where peer pressure is going to be at an all time high in their lives.
10. Don't Confuse the Process with the Product - A lesson that reminds them they are in process and are not a finished product. Not to judge themselves because God is still working on them and molding them into the individual they will become.
11. Am I Ready to Go Down the Road with Delight - Again this deals with attitudes as they go through the process of growing up. Great lesson.
12. Nobody Hears Me and I Hear Nobody - Encourages them to lean on God and other Christians as they go through the process of growing up.
I especially encourage parents with behavioral issues to give these lessons a go. My son was diagnosed very early in life with Oppositional Defiant Disorder. At a certain age talking with him was our best tool. These lessons encourage him to grow and give me things to talk to him about and really have opened up a door for us. I am very pleased with the results and I encourage any parent who is at their wit's end from dealing with defiance, stubborn behaviors, or even tantrums to give these a try. They put the ball in your child's court and really give them a chance to learn and see their behavior in a new light too.
Monday, March 26, 2012
Making Us Proud
My husband and son got all dressed up this evening to go to their boy scout meeting. It was a review night and they both looked so sharp!
They came home in a great mood and my husband was very proud of our son as he earned his rank advancement this evening.
When he told him to come tell me about it, my son rushed in grinning and said, "Home school is paying off mom!"
I said, "What do you mean?"
He said, "I was able to not only answer a question about our constitutional rights but give them a list of them and how they applied to me. I did really well on that question."
I was pretty excited and extremely pleased to hear that some of the material he has learned in the last few months is already beginning to make a difference. He's not just learning. He's retaining information. He's applying it to his life.
This is the kind of news that would make any home school parent proud! What we do does make a difference!
They came home in a great mood and my husband was very proud of our son as he earned his rank advancement this evening.
When he told him to come tell me about it, my son rushed in grinning and said, "Home school is paying off mom!"
I said, "What do you mean?"
He said, "I was able to not only answer a question about our constitutional rights but give them a list of them and how they applied to me. I did really well on that question."
I was pretty excited and extremely pleased to hear that some of the material he has learned in the last few months is already beginning to make a difference. He's not just learning. He's retaining information. He's applying it to his life.
This is the kind of news that would make any home school parent proud! What we do does make a difference!
Tuesday, March 20, 2012
How to Develop a Writer
Unfortunately for my son his mom is a published author. I might not be Nora Roberts or Danielle Steel but the fact remains I have published my writing in various formats for the last ten years. He used to have a thirst for writing that almost surpassed my own. I could see the desire to possibly someday be published himself.
The problem is somewhere in the public education system this thirst dampened. It died. He was writing well developed stories in fourth grade and so they stopped feeding him improvement. They didn't teach him the mundane part of the writing process because he was doing a good job. So the ball got dropped. The spark for telling a story is still there. The little hint of a flame as he reveals a plot twist, a gruesome death, or a funny joke. What's missing is a lack of respect for the process of "feeding the flame".
He has no idea how often one, single piece may be written and rewritten. He wasn't given elements of building the story further than his initial idea. While he was taught writing in a classroom setting it was a basic class that touched upon knowledge he already had. It taught basic character development. Never mind that his stories all showed those basics what he needed was more in depth knowledge.
So now we have a problem of arrogance. Thinking his writing is far superior to his peers he has hit a point where I am going to have to burst that bubble. I am going to have to take some of the lessons above the place his peers are at. Which means I will hear complaints of, "this is too hard." "I'm not writing a book mom!" "I already did that." "How long does it have to be?" The last is my least favorite because it isn't a question that explores what is my potential? It's a question that explores what do I have to do to pass?
So there is a mind set here that we need to make a break through in. Life isn't about passing or failing. It's not about doing good enough. It's about doing your best. If he would get rid of that pass or fail, good enough, how long should my writing be thought process I have no idea what he would create. When he is given the limit of doing two pages, he does exactly two pages. When he is told do 10 paragraphs, he does exactly 10 paragraphs. What I see is that if he would let his creative monster loose on paper, unguarded, there is no limit to his imagination.
I hate giving a limit on a writing assignment. I really do. But if I don't, he will write the entire assignment in two sentences. His mind set is on doing as little as possible to produce the exact result the teacher requests. He won't explore any further. Yet, take him on vacation and riding in a car with nothing else to do he is typing out longer stories in the notes section of my Iphone. Stories that are good.
So this is my experiment in developing him beyond the pass/fail school system way of teaching. I don't know how successful it will be in the end and there are have been times already in this process where he has bucked against my non traditional method.
1. Give him a good writing prompt and ask for 5 paragraphs.
2. He used a "To be continued" setting himself up the next day to finish the story in 5 paragraphs.
3. Teach character development. Using a simple chart we watched an episode of his favorite television show and analyzed each character. We had four charts completed at the end of this session. http://www.teachervision.fen.com/pop-culture/printable/63325.html
4. Then he was told to do two more charts just like that printable on his characters.
5. At this point he was told to revise his 10 paragraph story and incorporate his character chart exercise into his writing. Here is where he did something completely unexpected. Rather than expanding upon his assignment, he did exactly what I asked and in the process condensed his story down to one page length. I was mad at first. Then I looked closer at what he had done. He had tightened down his story and took out a lot of the non essential elements. He did add in good character descriptions. It is nowhere near complete but it may actually be easier for him to work with the story now that the only things remaining are the important parts. Oh, and the story still made perfect sense.
6. Then we looked at the beginning. We read through: http://www.writing-world.com/fiction/greenway1.shtml
Then he was given a list I made in Microsoft word that hit each key point talked about in the article but worded in a way a sixth grader can apply to his writing. His assignment was to look through my print out and begin to brainstorm how he was going to do everything on that page in his first chapter. I also took his condensed story and broke it down into Chapter 1, Chapter 2, and Chapter 3. The objective at the end of this unit is a three chapter story that showcases his writing style.
7. The next class period is to complete Chapter 1. Incorporate everything he read, learned, and then worked out on paper the day before into his actual story.
This is a unit in progress so we are not finished but the overall point of what he is doing is here.
We will do a few lessons on conflict and the middle of a story. We will do a few lessons on conflict resolution, good endings, and how to wrap everything up without leaving a loose end unless you plan on doing a series of novels or stories. Finally, he will be put through the editing and re-writing process one last time to produce a three chapter short story. How will it work out for us? I have no idea. But I can't wait to read the final product!
The problem is somewhere in the public education system this thirst dampened. It died. He was writing well developed stories in fourth grade and so they stopped feeding him improvement. They didn't teach him the mundane part of the writing process because he was doing a good job. So the ball got dropped. The spark for telling a story is still there. The little hint of a flame as he reveals a plot twist, a gruesome death, or a funny joke. What's missing is a lack of respect for the process of "feeding the flame".
He has no idea how often one, single piece may be written and rewritten. He wasn't given elements of building the story further than his initial idea. While he was taught writing in a classroom setting it was a basic class that touched upon knowledge he already had. It taught basic character development. Never mind that his stories all showed those basics what he needed was more in depth knowledge.
So now we have a problem of arrogance. Thinking his writing is far superior to his peers he has hit a point where I am going to have to burst that bubble. I am going to have to take some of the lessons above the place his peers are at. Which means I will hear complaints of, "this is too hard." "I'm not writing a book mom!" "I already did that." "How long does it have to be?" The last is my least favorite because it isn't a question that explores what is my potential? It's a question that explores what do I have to do to pass?
So there is a mind set here that we need to make a break through in. Life isn't about passing or failing. It's not about doing good enough. It's about doing your best. If he would get rid of that pass or fail, good enough, how long should my writing be thought process I have no idea what he would create. When he is given the limit of doing two pages, he does exactly two pages. When he is told do 10 paragraphs, he does exactly 10 paragraphs. What I see is that if he would let his creative monster loose on paper, unguarded, there is no limit to his imagination.
I hate giving a limit on a writing assignment. I really do. But if I don't, he will write the entire assignment in two sentences. His mind set is on doing as little as possible to produce the exact result the teacher requests. He won't explore any further. Yet, take him on vacation and riding in a car with nothing else to do he is typing out longer stories in the notes section of my Iphone. Stories that are good.
So this is my experiment in developing him beyond the pass/fail school system way of teaching. I don't know how successful it will be in the end and there are have been times already in this process where he has bucked against my non traditional method.
1. Give him a good writing prompt and ask for 5 paragraphs.
2. He used a "To be continued" setting himself up the next day to finish the story in 5 paragraphs.
3. Teach character development. Using a simple chart we watched an episode of his favorite television show and analyzed each character. We had four charts completed at the end of this session. http://www.teachervision.fen.com/pop-culture/printable/63325.html
4. Then he was told to do two more charts just like that printable on his characters.
5. At this point he was told to revise his 10 paragraph story and incorporate his character chart exercise into his writing. Here is where he did something completely unexpected. Rather than expanding upon his assignment, he did exactly what I asked and in the process condensed his story down to one page length. I was mad at first. Then I looked closer at what he had done. He had tightened down his story and took out a lot of the non essential elements. He did add in good character descriptions. It is nowhere near complete but it may actually be easier for him to work with the story now that the only things remaining are the important parts. Oh, and the story still made perfect sense.
6. Then we looked at the beginning. We read through: http://www.writing-world.com/fiction/greenway1.shtml
Then he was given a list I made in Microsoft word that hit each key point talked about in the article but worded in a way a sixth grader can apply to his writing. His assignment was to look through my print out and begin to brainstorm how he was going to do everything on that page in his first chapter. I also took his condensed story and broke it down into Chapter 1, Chapter 2, and Chapter 3. The objective at the end of this unit is a three chapter story that showcases his writing style.
7. The next class period is to complete Chapter 1. Incorporate everything he read, learned, and then worked out on paper the day before into his actual story.
This is a unit in progress so we are not finished but the overall point of what he is doing is here.
We will do a few lessons on conflict and the middle of a story. We will do a few lessons on conflict resolution, good endings, and how to wrap everything up without leaving a loose end unless you plan on doing a series of novels or stories. Finally, he will be put through the editing and re-writing process one last time to produce a three chapter short story. How will it work out for us? I have no idea. But I can't wait to read the final product!
Sunday, March 11, 2012
If you don't like it, Suck an Egg
Since we decided to "come out" and announce our decision, we have found more haters than those that embrace our choice. Amazingly enough, the haters stem from our own family and relatives more than strangers. Strangers embrace the idea of home school without judgement or question.
In the interest of fairness, before I say to go suck an egg, let me also say when you have your own children you get to choose how to raise and educate them. You get to make those decisions. And I have seen plenty of public school educated adults fail. I have seen too many parents spend their time fighting with the system, fighting with their kids to fall in line with the system, and in general fighting more than educating. Isn't that a lot of stress?
Even in public school, they expect the parent to be a full time teacher in the evening. You walk hand in hand with your child's education process but you only get to see them a few hours in the evening after work/school before bed. Where is the time in that to be loving, joyous family unit? You only get your child a limited amount of years before they grow up. Do you not want quality family time? Do you not want to make enjoyable family memories?
As to questioning my credentials, let me just say that I did go to school for early childhood education. I didn't finish. I decided I didn't want to spend my life in a class room with thirty unknown children everyday trying to make them listen and follow rules in a society so screwed up a parent can't discipline a child, much less a teacher. I didn't want to spend more time fighting officials over every little move I made than I did expanding minds. I didn't want to do that. Plain and simple. Do you think every teacher with a degree is qualified and outstanding to teach every child? If you let a piece of paper tell you what you can and can not do your entire life, than you are going to miss out on life.
So here are some facts:
1. In 1997, a study of 5,402 homeschool students from 1,657 families was released. It was entitled, "Strengths of Their Own: Home Schoolers Across America." The study demonstrated that homeschoolers, on the average, out-performed their counterparts in the public schools by 30 to 37 percentile points in all subjects.
2. This was confirmed in another study by Dr. Lawrence Rudner of 20,760 homeschooled students which found the homeschoolers who have homeschooled all their school aged years had the highest academic achievement. This was especially apparent in the higher grades.
3. In a study released by the National Center for Home Education on November 10, 1994. According to these standardized test results provided by the Riverside Publishing Company of 16,311 homeschoolers from all 50 states K-12, the nationwide average for homeschool students is at the 77th percentile of the basic battery of the Iowa Test of Basic Skills. In reading, the homeschoolers' nationwide grand mean is the 79th percentile. This means, of course, that the homeschool students perform better in reading than 79 percent of the same population on whom the test is normed. In the area of language arts and math, the typical homeschooler scored in the 73rd percentile.
4. In 1991, a survey of standardized test scores was performed by the Home School Legal Defense Association in cooperation with the Psychological Corporation, which publishes the Stanford Achievement Test. The study involved the administering of the Stanford Achievement Test (8th Edition, Form J) to 5,124 homeschooled students. These students represented all 50 states and their grades ranged from K-12. These 5,124 homeschoolers' composite scores on the basic battery of tests in reading, math, and language arts ranked 18 to 28 percentile points above public school averages.
5. The Bob Jones University Testing Service of South Carolina provided test results of Montana homeschoolers. Also a survey of homeschoolers in Montana was conducted by the National Home Education Research Institute. Dr. Brian Ray evaluated the survey and test results and found:On average, the home education students in this study scored above the national norm in all subject areas on standardized achievement tests. These students scored, on average, at the 72nd percentile. This is well above the national average.
6. In North Dakota, Dr. Brian Ray conducted a survey of 205 homeschoolers throughout the state. The middle reading score was the 84th percentile, language was the 81st percentile, science was the 87th percentile, social studies was the 86th percentile, and math was the 81st percentile. Further, Dr. Ray found no significant statistical differences in academic achievement between those students taught by parents with less formal education and those students taught by parents with higher formal education.
7. Stanford University accepted 26% of the 35 homeschoolers who applied--nearly double its overall acceptance rate.
8. 2001, homeschoolers scored an average of 1,100 on the SAT--a full 81 points above the national average--and 22.8 on the ACT, compared with the national average of 21.
9. The homeschooling population in the United States has grown from some 10,000 to 15,000 children in the late 1960s to over one million children in 2001
10. In 1997, the winner of the National Spelling Bee was a homeschooled student. Every year since then, the winner has been a homeschooled student. This year, the first and second runners up were also homeschoolers. (2004)
More Info can be found at: http://www.hslda.org/docs/nche/000010/200410250.asp
In the interest of fairness, before I say to go suck an egg, let me also say when you have your own children you get to choose how to raise and educate them. You get to make those decisions. And I have seen plenty of public school educated adults fail. I have seen too many parents spend their time fighting with the system, fighting with their kids to fall in line with the system, and in general fighting more than educating. Isn't that a lot of stress?
Even in public school, they expect the parent to be a full time teacher in the evening. You walk hand in hand with your child's education process but you only get to see them a few hours in the evening after work/school before bed. Where is the time in that to be loving, joyous family unit? You only get your child a limited amount of years before they grow up. Do you not want quality family time? Do you not want to make enjoyable family memories?
As to questioning my credentials, let me just say that I did go to school for early childhood education. I didn't finish. I decided I didn't want to spend my life in a class room with thirty unknown children everyday trying to make them listen and follow rules in a society so screwed up a parent can't discipline a child, much less a teacher. I didn't want to spend more time fighting officials over every little move I made than I did expanding minds. I didn't want to do that. Plain and simple. Do you think every teacher with a degree is qualified and outstanding to teach every child? If you let a piece of paper tell you what you can and can not do your entire life, than you are going to miss out on life.
So here are some facts:
2. This was confirmed in another study by Dr. Lawrence Rudner of 20,760 homeschooled students which found the homeschoolers who have homeschooled all their school aged years had the highest academic achievement. This was especially apparent in the higher grades.
3. In a study released by the National Center for Home Education on November 10, 1994. According to these standardized test results provided by the Riverside Publishing Company of 16,311 homeschoolers from all 50 states K-12, the nationwide average for homeschool students is at the 77th percentile of the basic battery of the Iowa Test of Basic Skills. In reading, the homeschoolers' nationwide grand mean is the 79th percentile. This means, of course, that the homeschool students perform better in reading than 79 percent of the same population on whom the test is normed. In the area of language arts and math, the typical homeschooler scored in the 73rd percentile.
4. In 1991, a survey of standardized test scores was performed by the Home School Legal Defense Association in cooperation with the Psychological Corporation, which publishes the Stanford Achievement Test. The study involved the administering of the Stanford Achievement Test (8th Edition, Form J) to 5,124 homeschooled students. These students represented all 50 states and their grades ranged from K-12. These 5,124 homeschoolers' composite scores on the basic battery of tests in reading, math, and language arts ranked 18 to 28 percentile points above public school averages.
5. The Bob Jones University Testing Service of South Carolina provided test results of Montana homeschoolers. Also a survey of homeschoolers in Montana was conducted by the National Home Education Research Institute. Dr. Brian Ray evaluated the survey and test results and found:On average, the home education students in this study scored above the national norm in all subject areas on standardized achievement tests. These students scored, on average, at the 72nd percentile. This is well above the national average.
6. In North Dakota, Dr. Brian Ray conducted a survey of 205 homeschoolers throughout the state. The middle reading score was the 84th percentile, language was the 81st percentile, science was the 87th percentile, social studies was the 86th percentile, and math was the 81st percentile. Further, Dr. Ray found no significant statistical differences in academic achievement between those students taught by parents with less formal education and those students taught by parents with higher formal education.
7. Stanford University accepted 26% of the 35 homeschoolers who applied--nearly double its overall acceptance rate.
8. 2001, homeschoolers scored an average of 1,100 on the SAT--a full 81 points above the national average--and 22.8 on the ACT, compared with the national average of 21.
9. The homeschooling population in the United States has grown from some 10,000 to 15,000 children in the late 1960s to over one million children in 2001
10. In 1997, the winner of the National Spelling Bee was a homeschooled student. Every year since then, the winner has been a homeschooled student. This year, the first and second runners up were also homeschoolers. (2004)
More Info can be found at: http://www.hslda.org/docs/nche/000010/200410250.asp
So in summary, if you have something negative to say, use researched facts to back your argument up. And don't be such a gossip. Say it to the home school parent's face and be willing to listen to their reasoning, logic, and statistics as well. You will find out that most of us did not come to this decision lightly. Most of us researched. Most of us thought it out. Most of us have multiple reasons and various layers for our choice. And most of us work harder than you could imagine to find curriculum that is advanced, informative, accurate, and offers a variety of choices to meet our needs. Just because you have chose a traditional system with flaws gives you no superior right to knock someone else's choices for deciding to use their own system which may also have flaws, but they are flaws they can work out and mend themselves.
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